In recent years I have encountered a few men who have struggled with same sex attraction, but didn’t want to enter a homosexual lifestyle. I have also met men who have chosen to give up their homosexual lifestyle and become celibate. I have also met men who are open about the fact that they used to be homosexual and are now heterosexual in orientation. Some observers tell me that it is because they are really bisexual, but the men themselves would not agree, and I find myself having respect for their point of view.
This book is very bold, in offering practical points to help the person who is uncomfortable with their homosexuality and want to find their identity in something other than their sexual behaviour or desires.
The author was a practicing homosexual for many years and when he made a change it wasn’t easy. There is nothing preachy or condescending about this book – it just recognises a real need that many men and women have and gives guidance on what steps to take to change. The book doesn’t condemn, or criticise, it just offers a hand to those who need someone to help them.
He also has the help of other ex-homosexuals who contribute to the book. It isn’t all written to men either – because an ex-lesbian writes part of it.
Whatever society tells us, the reality experienced by Pastors and counsellors all over the world is that there are a significant number of homosexuals who want to change their orientation.
In society at large, if a man wants to leave his wife and adopt a homosexual lifestyle when he is 45, he is applauded for coming out. If a 30 year old man lives for 2 years as a woman and has convinced his counsellors that he should be a woman he is given gender reassignment surgery and some sections of society applaud him for his courage in finding himself.
When guys and girls who have lived a homosexual life and think and act ‘gay’ find they are dissatisfied and become desperate to leave that scene, so many people deny the validity of that choice. Only a hypocrite or someone with their own agenda can deny such people help and support or fail to applaud their courageous stand. There are plenty of voices who say ‘come out’ and hardly anyone who will welcome back those who have spent years indulging themselves in every form of pleasure they desired.
Looking for a way out? This book will help. It isn’t magic and it won’t make the problems go away, but it will offer advice from people who have walked the journey in front of you and have found a way to satisfaction.
Leaving Homosexuality by Alan Chambers is published by Harvest House ISBN 978-0-7369-2610-2.
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